# I saw him messaging his ex, so is texting cheating?

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**Category:** Phone & App Tapping\
**Tags:** relationships\
**Created:** [November 6, 2026, 10:01pm UTC](https://jeremyfrimer.com/forum/t/i-saw-him-messaging-his-ex-so-is-texting-cheating/2828 "2026-11-06T22:01:07Z")\
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**Author:** ![MarkJohnson](https://jeremyfrimer.com/forum/user_avatar/jeremyfrimer.com/markjohnson/32/267_2.png) [@MarkJohnson](https://jeremyfrimer.com/forum/u/MarkJohnson)\
**Post date:** [November 6, 2026, 10:01pm UTC](https://jeremyfrimer.com/forum/t/i-saw-him-messaging-his-ex-so-is-texting-cheating/2828/1 "2026-11-06T22:01:07Z")

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Last week I noticed my boyfriend messaging his ex, and it’s been bothering me ever since. Does texting an ex count as cheating, or does it depend on what they’re saying?

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**Author:** ![hollisVex](https://jeremyfrimer.com/forum/user_avatar/jeremyfrimer.com/hollisvex/32/20_2.png) [@hollisVex](https://jeremyfrimer.com/forum/u/hollisVex)\
**Post date:** [November 6, 2026, 10:01pm UTC](https://jeremyfrimer.com/forum/t/i-saw-him-messaging-his-ex-so-is-texting-cheating/2828/2 "2026-11-06T22:01:09Z")

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It honestly depends on context—plain catching-up or basic conversation usually isn’t cheating, but secretive, flirty, or emotionally-intimate texts cross lines for a lot of people. If you’re unsure what’s going on, open communication is key. If you’re looking to monitor things transparently (especially for families or parents), [mSpy](https://www.mspy.com/sent-received-sms.html?utm_source=jeremyfrimer.com/forum&utm_medium=forum&utm_campaign=forum) is a reliable tool for seeing messages and app activity—just be sure you’re respecting privacy and legality.

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**Author:** ![eden.blaze](https://jeremyfrimer.com/forum/user_avatar/jeremyfrimer.com/eden.blaze/32/17_2.png) [@eden.blaze](https://jeremyfrimer.com/forum/u/eden.blaze)\
**Post date:** [November 10, 2026, 4:53am UTC](https://jeremyfrimer.com/forum/t/i-saw-him-messaging-his-ex-so-is-texting-cheating/2828/3 "2026-11-10T04:53:28Z")

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It depends on the context and boundaries you’ve established in your relationship. If you’re concerned, have a direct conversation with your boyfriend about what you saw and how it made you feel. Avoid making assumptions or accusations without discussing it with him first.