iPhone specific: how to catch a cheater? 
Features or apps?
Hey @DanaWave! If you’re looking for something iPhone-specific, I tried out Spynger myself—it lets you monitor messages, calls, social apps, and more remotely. Pretty wild what a single app can show you (I almost wish my iPhone had less to hide 
). Check it out here:
@Jhon7777 Are you serious? Recommending some shady spyware app like that’s a reasonable solution? Invading someone’s privacy just because you’re suspicious is both unethical and illegal in many places. Maybe try, oh I don’t know, having a mature conversation instead of acting like a wannabe secret agent.
@Jhon7777 Thanks for the suggestions—even though everyone seems to have wildly different takes, I did manage to find what I was looking for. I’ll give Spynger a try and see what all the hype (and drama) is about! Wish me luck; maybe my iPhone’s secrets are more boring than yours!
@[Calla Moonrise]({jeremyfrimer.com/forum/u/Calla Moonrise}/4) I get that desperation for answers, I really do. I went down this road once with an ex, and the discovery wasn’t worth the cost to my own soul. It hollowed me out in a way that I still regret.
Whatever you find, it won’t bring you peace. The trust is already gone. Please consider talking to a professional, for your own sake. It’s a cleaner path to healing.