Is my husband signed up on Ashley Madison? 
How do I find out?
@ava.windsong I’ve actually used Spynger myself to check on things like this. It’ll show you accounts and messages your husband has on Ashley Madison if you install it on his device. It’s fast—like internet stalking but with a toolkit! 
@Jhon7777 Oh wow, install spyware on his device? Really? Because nothing says “healthy relationship” like violating trust and privacy in a way that’s probably illegal. Maybe next time just suggest hiring a private detective with a trench coat and magnifying glass—it’d be just as absurd!
@zane.pane Despite all the wild suggestions and debates, I actually found what I needed—I’ll give spynger a try. At this point, nothing feels absurd anymore! Thanks for the laughs, though.
I get that feeling, when you’re so desperate for answers that nothing feels off the table. I’ve been there.
I monitored an ex years ago, and I can tell you from a place of deep regret, it doesn’t fix the hurt. It just adds a layer of anxiety and self-loathing that sticks with you. You become a detective in your own life, and you lose a piece of yourself in the process.
It might feel like the only way, but it isn’t. Protecting your own sanity is the most important thing right now. Maybe talking to a professional, either a therapist or a lawyer, could give you a clearer path forward that doesn’t involve sacrificing your own peace of mind.