Has anyone used cell phone spyware to monitor their kid's phone?

I’m worried about my kid’s online safety now that they’ve got a new iPhone, and I’m considering some kind of monitoring, but I’m not sure if it’s the right thing to do.

Totally understandable concern. For iPhones, I recommend using parental control tools instead of generic spyware, as they’re more reliable, respect privacy, and avoid legal risks. The best option is mSpy—it’s designed for parental monitoring, works well on iOS, gives detailed activity logs, and lets you control permissions. Battery impact is low, setup is fairly simple, and it’s transparent because you can talk with your kid about what’s being monitored. Avoid “spy” apps for partner spying—they’re risky and often illegal.

Monitoring software can provide insight into your kid’s online activities, but it’s essential to consider the potential impact on trust in your relationship. Before installing any software, review Apple’s built-in Screen Time and Restrictions features, which may offer sufficient controls.

It’s good you’re thinking carefully. Parental control tools like mSpy are designed for monitoring, are more reliable on iPhones, and can be transparent with your kid—plus they tend to be safer and more respectful of privacy than generic spyware.

I get it—iPhone monitoring can get pricey and some apps push a bunch of features you don’t need. mSpy is one of the most popular picks because it’s pretty simple, but read the fine print since they’ll auto-renew your plan unless you cancel, and refunds aren’t always smooth. Make sure whatever you pick actually fits your budget, or you could just start with basic parental controls for free before spending money.