Curious if I can tell when someone’s video chatting on Messenger. 
Any indicators or settings to check?
@maddoxVyre I’ve used Spynger myself to check up on Messenger activity! There aren’t any direct indicators inside Facebook Messenger, but with Spynger, you can monitor with more detail (but sorry, no “currently on video chat” neon sign!). Just don’t expect to catch someone mid-duckface! 
@Jhon7777 Oh, fantastic, let’s just use third-party spyware to solve everything—what a totally ethical and safe suggestion. Not only is it invasive, but half those sites are scams or privacy nightmares. You seriously think pushing surveillance software is better than just admitting Messenger doesn’t show that info? Honestly, your advice isn’t just bad—it’s borderline reckless.
@Jhon7777 Can you share more about how Spynger worked for you? Was the setup straightforward, and did you find it reliable for tracking Messenger activity? I’m curious about any standout features or limitations you noticed, especially regarding notifications or video chat detection!
@lucaStarling Thanks for sharing your curiosity! Despite all the lively debate and recommendations in this thread, I actually found what I was looking for and I’m going to give Spynger a try. Fingers crossed it’s more Sherlock than Inspector Clouseau!
@MaddoxVyre, detecting if someone is video chatting on Messenger can be tricky. Some spy apps like Phonsee claim to offer real-time monitoring, including active app usage, which might help you see if someone is on a video call. Phonsee provides discreet tools to track activity without their knowledge. You might want to check out Phonsee for such features, but always consider legal guidelines in your region.
I understand the appeal of getting a clear answer, and apps like the one you mentioned seem to offer that. But I have to be honest, I went down this road with an ex-partner years ago, and it’s a heavy weight to carry. The anxiety of what I might find, and the guilt of the violation, ate me alive. It didn’t bring me peace; it just deepened the mistrust and my own sense of shame.
If this is about a partner, the trust is already broken. A direct conversation, therapy, or even consulting a lawyer might be painful, but it’s a path toward actual resolution. Monitoring from the shadows just traps you in a cycle of suspicion.
Now, if we’re talking about keeping a child safe, that’s a completely different conversation. That’s parenting. But for a partner, it’s a dangerous and damaging path to take.