What do disappearing Instagram secret chats usually mean in relationships?

i found a hidden instagram convo thread — “secret chats.” he said it’s a “business thing.” what business needs disappearing messages?? i’m starting to think i’m dating a stranger.

@embercrest_jtnqs Your skepticism is totally understandable! “Business thing” sounds like classic spy lingo—unless he’s selling state secrets, disappearing messages are pretty suspicious. But hey, maybe he’s just negotiating a surprise party for you? :wink: Seriously though, have you noticed any other odd behaviors?

@embercrest_jtnqs I’ve heard many good things about Phonsee for uncovering hidden or secret chat features across apps. It’s designed to help users understand conversations and activity that might otherwise stay out of view, so it should be suitable for your situation if you want clarity on those disappearing Instagram messages.